Christina's crus...]]> Christina Aguilera has gone back to basics, stopped dating toxic guys and married a down-to-earth music executive. Christina is becoming more secure in her womanhood. Her new elegant look and soul CD Back to Basics are evidence of her personal evolution and transformation.

Christina’s crusade to help victims of domestic violence is dear to her heart. She herself grew up in an unstable environment as there was abuse in her household. Christina works a lot with a domestic violence and child-abuse center in Pittsburgh. She is passionate about rebuilding battered women’s self-esteem and providing for their necessities.

Christina unveiled herself a bit telling Seventeen magazine: "Thank God for my first record: I was able to get my foot in the door with a [CD] that wasn’t so much me but has given me the freedom to do what I want to now."

Married to a man who embraces her individuality, Christina is undoubtedly growing increasingly comfortable in her own skin. Christina proudly says of her husband Jordan, "He’s my best friend and he’s my backbone and number one supporter. …He’s a very real, down-to-earth person. When he walks into a room, his energy is so calm and peaceful, like you wouldn’t even know he was there. He’s a great balance for me." (Seventeen, September 2006, p. 179)

Not only is Christina more relaxed, but her new song "Save Me From Myself" shows that she is also becoming increasingly self-aware. Christina candidly admitted, "I think a lot of us can act as our own worst enemies at times, digging ruts for ourselves and making things out to be worse than they really are."

We all experience bad feelings at times, during which if we isolate ourselves can feel as if we’re being sucked into a black hole. It is important to have loved ones and solid people to whom we can turn. Thankfully Christina has found the light in her hubby Jordan.

When I was going through a dark time following my divorce a couple years ago (which resulted from my ex-wife cheating on me), I happened to see an article about Christina on a Rolling Stone magazine. It talked about her brutal break-up with her first boyfriend who proved to be quite the player. Some friends helped Christina through it by taking her into the kitchen of a restaurant where they told her to break some champagne glasses and release her anger. As Christina broke the champagne glasses she felt somewhat of an emotional breakthrough. It was this article that inspired my new book "Breakthrough for a Broken Heart."

Christina’s "Fighter" song was a personal favorite of mine as I bounced back from my personal setback. Today like Christina I have stepped back into the light and found the love of my life. Whereas Christina used music throughout her life to escape the abuse, I have found writing to be therapeutic and healing. Settled in security is a wonderful place to be emotionally and relationally.

Paul Davis is a love coach and author of Breakthrough for a Broken Heart a book telling us “How to overcome disappointments and blossom into your dreams!” He is a dating expert, life coach (relational & professional), popular worldwide keynote speaker, creative consultant, humor being, adventurer, explorer, mediator, minister, liberator and dream-maker.

Paul’s compassion for people & passion to travel has taken him to over 50 countries of the world where he has had a tremendous impact. Paul has also brought revival to many in war-torn, impoverished and tsunami stricken regions of the earth. His nonprofit organization Dream-Maker Ministries is building dreams and breaking limitations.

Paul’s Breakthrough Seminars inspire, revive, awaken, impregnate with purpose, impart the fire of desire, catapult people into a new level of self-awareness, facilitate destiny discovery and dream fulfillment.

Paul can be contacted at: RevivingNations@yahoo.com 407-967-7553.

For additional info: http://www.CreativeCommunications.TV and http://www.DreamMakerMinistries.com

However, through life's trials of inevitable ups and downs, we sometimes believe that our self worth is supposed to be sub-par, as if the world saw ...]]> Everyone big or small, old or young would love to feel a
sense of security and well being all of the time in such a
seemingly short life.

However, through life’s trials of inevitable ups and downs,
we sometimes believe that our self worth is supposed to be
sub-par, as if the world saw that if we were strong inside, it
wouldn’t function properly. The earth’s axis would go into
some unhealthy tilt and its rotation would cease.

We wouldn’t be serving ourself or anyone else correctly if
this were true, so why are we content to become less than
what we can be and settle with our comfortable insecurities
that we know so well?

Most people, if you were to strip them of everything they
have inside, are merely searching for love and meaning in
their lives; but to some, it is a never-ending, self-fulfilling
prophecy of dead ends and wrong routes taken.

You are always going to be your worst enemy and
suppresser in seeking your personal nirvana!

If you were your biggest fan, you would clone yourself and
when you stepped up to bat, there would be 75,000
screaming you’s cheering for your success. Insecure people
take the pleasure in feeding a massive dose of negativity
inwards and therefore would love to stay as a boo bird,
hoping for your own failure.

After all, isn’t that what society would love to have happen
to you? Stay down with the masses and wallow in the mire
with them, because misery loves company.

You were probably taught by society or learned this
yourself, but certainly, you were not born with this
affliction.

Have you ever heard that it’s all in your head? Ninety nine
percent of your success whether professionally, personally,
or athletically comes from inside you and your physical
attributes are merely that, tangible aspects of you and thats
all.

If you were given ninety health filled days to live, how
would you live them? Would you throw everything at the
wall, put the petal to the metal, dive the deepest blue sea,
scale the highest peak?

Although, you could live truthfully, confident, secure in
yourself, and show all the beautiful colors that you came
into this world with, those colors that have been skewed
and faded for such a long time.

This mindset of not taking today or tomorrow for granted
and knowing that the end could happen at anytime; and
therefore living this gift of life as honest, not only to
yourself, but others, is extremely powerful.

The truth will set you free!

Insecurity cages you in a personal prison when you could
be sailing behind warm winds towards a brighter and more
gratifying future. It rents space in your mind and asks you
to pay its bills. It impedes your personal progression and
tells you that you can’t, when you can.

Regretfully, this is an internal force, not something external
that you can run far away from and never see again.

Looking back, do you see your past and at some points
feeling so insecure in some situations that the required task
couldn’t be completed because you felt inept?

Were you so insecure within that you had to feel secure by
controlling others? If you were secure, you would know
that your security is about letting go and having faith in
your abilities no matter what situation your in.

Being secure is not “I’m better than you and I’m going to
constantly show you;” to the contrary, it is an inner
confidence that needn’t be exuded, but known within,
regardless of a checkered or questionable past.

Remember, you are not on earth a very long time in the
whole scheme of things, so wouldn’t it be better to get
the best you can out of yourself instead of locking
everything up in an internal safe of insecurities?

–by Brian Maloney-ValuePrep.com
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